More sex does not equal better sex. This course will help you create more pleasurable erotic experiences together.
Our sexuality is influenced by every aspect of our lives. Uncover your unique sexual stories, appetites, and preferences, then build on them to discover new erotic possibilities.
There’s more than one route to pleasure and erotic satisfaction. Learn how to bring more aliveness, vitality, and spontaneity into your sex life through fantasy, ritual, and more.
Sexual candor is key to clear communication. Discover scripts and exercises to help you practice asking for what you want, giving your partner what they want, and more.
Taught by Esther Perel
Whether you’re looking for fresh ideas for enhancing intimacy, guidance for how to have more open conversations about sex, or permission to enjoy even more pleasure—this course is for you.
In order to want sex, it needs to be sex worth wanting. Learn how to use curiosity and willingness to foster eroticism, increase desire, and create more satisfying experiences together.
Desire requires a sense of mystery to thrive. Breathe new life into your daily routines by creating erotic rituals unique to your relationship and desires.
Play is at the heart of eroticism. Discover and explore each others’ pleasure points with the help of playful prompts and hands-on exercises.
In a format that works
Perfect for enhancing erotic intimacy on date night.
- High quality videos
- INTERACTIVE WORKBOOK
- PLAYFUL PROMPTS AND IDEAS
- conversation catalysts
Course Curriculum
In this module, you’ll learn about eroticism, the influence of your sexual history on your current erotic experiences, and how to turn routine “maintenance sex” into an erotic and pleasurable ritual.
In this module, you’ll discover the seven verbs that shape the way we love and how to use them. You’ll also find multiple hands-on exercises to explore with your partner to engage your senses and tap into the erotic.
In this module, you’ll learn the distinction between love and desire and how they each play into the erotic landscape. You’ll also discover why fantasy and imagination are so crucial to cultivating eroticism.
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This is the perfect place to begin if you’re feeling stuck in a sexual rut. This course is designed for people in relationships that need a sexual revival.
Playing with Desire
This is the perfect place to begin if you’re feeling stuck in a sexual rut. This course is designed for people in relationships that need a sexual revival
The Desire Bundle
Get both Bringing Desire Back and Playing With Desire and gain the skills to not just address desire discrepancies — but to own your desire and begin erotic play.
Frequently asked questions
Your purchase of Playing with Desire includes access for both you and your partner. We invite you to watch the videos together and share the log-in credentials, if necessary. We are not able to provide a separate log-in. If your partner requires access in a separate account, please have them purchase the course.
A relationship is made up of the people within it. When one of those people changes, the dynamic of the relationship also changes. If your partner is unwilling or unable to join you in learning about desire, you will still benefit from learning this material on your own.
Playing with Desire is a self-paced course with exercises created by, but not directed by Esther. She will not be providing real-time therapy or feedback to course participants.
When you purchase Playing with Desire, you'll receive a collection of lessons and exercises along with a robust workbook. We recommend that you plan time to watch each lesson and complete the accompanying exercise before moving on to the next lesson.
If you are completing the course with a partner, we suggest watching the videos together and working through the exercises individually. After you have both completed the exercises, come back together to share your responses and have a conversation about your answers and relationship.
If you treat this course as entertainment to be consumed, you may find it entertaining and pick up some new perspectives along the way. On the other hand, if you treat this course as a guide for engaging in new behaviors, thoughts, and ideas, and you take the time to complete each exercise, it’s our hope that you’ll learn something truly new, deeply interesting, and incredibly valuable that will help you navigate relationships of all kinds for the rest of your life.
Whether you binge the course, work through the exercises as an intensive study for date night, or stretch it out over weeks or months is up to you. Do what is best for you.
If you watch all the videos and complete all the exercises, it should take you 5–10 hours to complete the entire course.
While many of Esther’s other materials touch on desire and eroticism, Playing with Desire is a deep dive into enhancing eroticism. Through video lessons and a downloadable workbook, you’ll learn how to bring more aliveness, vitality, and spontaneity back into your sex life.
Bringing Desire Back is for individuals in relationships and romantic partners experiencing erotic blocks, lack of desire or desire discrepancies, or challenges in sexual communication who want to remove erotic blocks and reignite desire.
Playing with Desire is for individuals in relationships and romantic partners seeking to tap into new erotic possibilities and bring more aliveness, vitality, and spontaneity into the relationship.
Both courses are designed for people in relationships, though they can be taken with or without a partner.
As excited as we are to share Playing with Desire with you, we believe the materials inside Rekindling Desire are more than enough to help you tap into new erotic possibilities. If you’re interested in learning more about enhancing eroticism, we invite you to revisit the materials inside Rekindling Desire rather than purchasing this new course. Click here to log in to your account and access those materials now.
Though you would likely benefit tremendously from this course, Playing with Desire is designed for people in relationships. It can be taken with or without a partner.
While Playing with Desire is absolutely appropriate and supportive as a supplemental aid, I invite you to work with a trained relational psychotherapist and your medical provider for personalized support. If you wish to expand and enhance your experience of eroticism in its many forms (including the non-sexual), this course will help you build fulfilling rituals and offer playful exercises to help you play your way to a more erotically charged life. Playing with Desire is not designed to diagnose or treat medical conditions.
Playing with Desire is designed to help only those interested in enhancing eroticism in their relationship. If you or your partner identify as asexual, know that asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation; this lack of desire is not something to be overcome. However, it cannot be denied that one partner’s asexual identity can greatly impact a non-asexual partner. Though Playing with Desire might help you bring more playfulness and levity into your relationship, I invite you to instead consider working with a trained relational psychotherapist specializing in asexuality. They will be able to help you explore the many other arrangements that may be necessary for your unique situation.