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I imagine a world where we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality in our relationships, because the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. I’ve dedicated my life and career to understanding and improving human relationships. Let's continue to learn together.

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Stop Bickering. It's Killing Your Relationship

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I think of bickering as low intensity chronic warfare. Ongoing criticism can lead to the demise of the relationship. In this video from my Moments advice series, we look at the common act of bickering, its profound impact on our relationships, and how to kick the habit. 

Stop Bickering. It's Killing Your Relationship

I think of bickering as low intensity chronic warfare. Ongoing criticism can lead to the demise of the relationship. In this video from my Moments advice series, we look at the common act of bickering, its profound impact on our relationships, and how to kick the habit. 

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Why Modern Love is So Damn Hard

This week, I write to you about the expectations that can derail our relationships. Starting with the wedding vow.

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Podcasting an Affair: Episode One

My reflections on Episode One of Where Should We Begin, entitled "I've Had Better".

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Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic

I knew that writing my new book The State of Affairs would be met with strong reactions on all sides. So why step into the fire?

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