Conflict and Repair

"Creating new patterns of mutual self-awareness and affirmation of the other is the key to improving our relational dynamics."

The cycle of connection, disconnection, and reconnection exists in every relationship. We all know that moment of deeply upsetting bewilderment that pushes a relationship fight over the edge. It’s when we ask ourselves for the umpteeth time HOW could they possibly be doing this AGAIN when they know how much it UPSETS me? What would happen if we took a pause, took a breath, and attempted to work together to identify what’s really going on?