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Letters from Esther

Exclusive personal reflections from Esther on relevant relationship topics.

Important takeaways to help you develop your relational intelligence.

A curated list of related resources to further explore. 

Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic

I knew that writing my new book The State of Affairs would be met with strong reactions on all sides. So why step into the fire?

Relationship Accountability

Rejection has always been a part of the relationship landscape. But are the new trends of ghosting, icing and simmering increasing our acceptance of ambiguous ends?

How to be Assertive Without Being Aggressive

Power dynamics and what it means to be in control has changed over time. In today's social context, how can we navigate the line between dialogue and debate?

The Language of Gender: Beyond Boy and Girl

Esther explores the importance of language in our experience of gender.

What Does it Mean to be a Man?

A reader asks about how to handle his feelings of inadequacy after circumstances force him to become a stay-at-home dad.

A Man's Secret: Performance Anxiety

For many men, identity and self-esteem are bound up with sexuality. In this context performance anxiety can be extremely destabilizing. How then to deal with this common issue?

When Their Turn On Is Your Turn Off

In this weeks post, Esther explores what to do when fantasies aren't shared.

What You Don't Understand About Sexual Fantasies

This week, Esther explores what is meant by sexual fantasy.

Letters From Esther #33: Making and Breaking Wedding Traditions

My monthly newsletter and workshop is meant to inspire you to reflect, act, and develop greater confidence and relational intelligence in all of your relationships. This month's theme is: Making and Breaking Wedding Traditions.

Letters from Esther #32: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Letters from Esther #31: Inviting Vulnerability

My monthly newsletter and workshop are meant to inspire you to reflect, act, and develop greater confidence and relational intelligence in all of your relationships. This month's theme is: Inviting Vulnerability.

Letters From Esther #30: Appreciating Otherness in Relationships

Letters From Esther #29: New relationships are a part of life. So is ending them.

Letters From Esther #28: I couldn’t listen anymore and I snapped.

My monthly newsletter and workshop are meant to inspire you to reflect, act, and develop greater confidence and relational intelligence in all of your relationships. This month's theme is: Listening.

Letters From Esther #27: Friendship

My monthly newsletter and workshop is meant to inspire you to reflect, act, and develop greater confidence and relational intelligence in all of your relationships. This month's theme is: Friendship.

Letters From Esther #26: The Great Adaptation

Rituals For Healthy Relationships At Every Stage

Routines and rituals have a lot in common, but what makes them different is the key to elevating our relationships. Read more about the importance of rituals for healthy relationships at every stage.

What Does it Mean to be a Man?

A reader asks about how to handle his feelings of inadequacy after circumstances force him to become a stay-at-home dad.

5 Ways to Start Conversations with Confidence

Small talk of all kinds is an unavoidable part of life. And, when done well, it can be a sweet, touching, and thrilling experience. It’s a bridge between your life and the lives of others. If you’re nervous about the idea of talking to a stranger—or an acquaintance or colleague that you haven’t seen in awhile—this guide is for you. Read more on how to start conversations with confidence.

Articles

Letters from Esther #65: Is love worth it?

Letters from Esther

Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic

Relationship Accountability

How to be Assertive Without Being Aggressive

The Language of Gender: Beyond Boy and Girl

What Does it Mean to be a Man?

A Man's Secret: Performance Anxiety

When Their Turn On Is Your Turn Off

What You Don't Understand About Sexual Fantasies

Letters From Esther #33: Making and Breaking Wedding Traditions

Letters from Esther #32: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Letters from Esther #31: Inviting Vulnerability

Letters From Esther #30: Appreciating Otherness in Relationships

Letters From Esther #29: New relationships are a part of life. So is ending them.

Letters From Esther #28: I couldn’t listen anymore and I snapped.

Letters From Esther #27: Friendship

Letters From Esther #26: The Great Adaptation

Rituals For Healthy Relationships At Every Stage

What Does it Mean to be a Man?

5 Ways to Start Conversations with Confidence

You can also browse articles, Letters from Esther, and Podcast Episodes in our “Focus On” sections, where we group resources based on important relational topics.