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Unsent Love Letters - Fantasy and Unrequited Love

In this Unsent Love Letter, a woman writes about a future she'll never have with a man she'll never be with. We discuss the themes of fantasy and unrequited love and the ritual of closure. Read more to hear what the letter holds.

Unsent Love Letters - Love Across the Decades

In this Unsent Love Letter, a woman writes about a relationship that was unlikely to succeed, but after three decades it is still strong. We discuss the nuances of love across the decades and how breaking routine can bring energy back to a relationship. Read more to hear what the letter holds.

Unsent Love Letters - Young and In Love

In this Unsent Love Letter, the author writes to her high school sweetheart who called her out of the blue eight years later. We discuss the themes of paths not chosen and how reflections on past intimacies can be positive. Read more to hear what the letter holds.

Unsent Love Letters - Healing After Betrayal

In this Unsent Love Letter, the author writes to her partner of a year who’s been living a parallel life. We discuss the themes self-blame after a betrayal and the importance of social connection during a time of healing. Read more to hear what the letter holds.

Why Eroticism Should Be Part of your Self-Care Plan

Self-care isn’t just about facemasks and mindfulness. It’s about tuning into our bodies and letting them teach us what we like, what we don’t like, and what we don’t know about ourselves yet. Read more about what it means to incorporate eroticism into your self-care plan and why it's important.

Letters from Esther #6 - Promises and Resolutions

Letters from Esther is my monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for our relational intelligence. In celebration of the new year, this month's theme is: Promises and Resolutions.

What Couples Therapy Can Teach Us About Conflict in the Workplace

There are hidden relationship dimensions at play underneath the majority of interpersonal issues, whether at home or at work. Read about the three dimensions I tend to focus on, what they mean, and how they can help you better understand and manage conflict in the workplace

Letters from Esther #5 - Trauma, Poetry, and Elephants in South Africa

Letters from Esther is my monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for your relational intelligence. This month's theme is: Trauma, Poetry, and Elephants in South Africa.

Letters From Esther #9: Life and Love Under Lockdown

My monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for your relational intelligence. This month's theme is: Life and Love Under Lockdown.

Letters From Esther #8: The Myth of Self-Love

Letters from Esther #7: The Art of Conversation

Letters from Esther is my monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for our relational intelligence. This month's theme is: The Art of Communication

Letters from Esther #6 - Promises and Resolutions

Letters from Esther #5 - Trauma, Poetry, and Elephants in South Africa

Letters from Esther #4 - Relationship Dynamics in the Workplace

My monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for your relational intelligence. In celebration of the release of my new podcast, How’s Work, this month's theme is: Relationship Dynamics in the Workplace

Letters from Esther #3 - Helping is Making Me Feel Helpless

Letters from Esther #2 - Security and Freedom

Stop Bickering. It's Killing Your Relationship

In this video and article, Esther looks at the phenomenon of bickering, and the impact it has on our relationships.

Men, Women, and Sexuality: More Similar Than Different

In this installment, I'll try to break down some of the most persistent myths about male and female sexuality.

Fight Smarter: Avoid the Most Common Argument Patterns

Esther talks about conflict patterns and how to fight smarter in her latest installment of "A Moment with Esther Perel".

The Value of Letter Writing

Letter writing allows for a deeply private space for reflection and, if appropriate for sending, potential communication. The trick is knowing the difference between what we should keep for only ourselves and what should be sent—and being able to manage what we open up in ourselves and in others if and when we decide to reach out. Read more on why letters are important to me and how to write your own.

A Look Inside Couples Therapy: How a Podcast Turned into a Global Mental Health Resource

Hearing others’ experiences can help us with our own. Read more about how Where Should Begin? came to be and what you can gain from listening to the stories and struggles of other couples.

When Their Turn On Is Your Turn Off

In this weeks post, Esther explores what to do when fantasies aren't shared.

Coping With Loneliness Around The Holidays

Feeling lonely around the holidays can make us feel as if something is wrong with us. Everybody else seems to know how to be happy, how to be together, how to be festive, merry, and bright. But feeling lonely around the winter holidays is extremely common. Read more about coping with loneliness around the holidays and some resources to help you face it.

Arguing about Money Again? Understanding Financial Tension in Relationships

Talking about money is no easy feat. But, it is an opportunity to understand the deeper beliefs and vulnerabilities it represents in your relationships and to grow your partnerships. Read more about why tensions in your relationship arise around finances and the money questions you can ask to start an open conversation.

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Letters from Esther #65: Is love worth it?

Letters from Esther

Unsent Love Letters - Fantasy and Unrequited Love

Unsent Love Letters - Love Across the Decades

Unsent Love Letters - Young and In Love

Unsent Love Letters - Healing After Betrayal

Why Eroticism Should Be Part of your Self-Care Plan

Letters from Esther #6 - Promises and Resolutions

What Couples Therapy Can Teach Us About Conflict in the Workplace

Letters from Esther #5 - Trauma, Poetry, and Elephants in South Africa

Letters From Esther #9: Life and Love Under Lockdown

Letters From Esther #8: The Myth of Self-Love

Letters from Esther #7: The Art of Conversation

Letters from Esther #6 - Promises and Resolutions

Letters from Esther #5 - Trauma, Poetry, and Elephants in South Africa

Letters from Esther #4 - Relationship Dynamics in the Workplace

Letters from Esther #3 - Helping is Making Me Feel Helpless

Letters from Esther #2 - Security and Freedom

Stop Bickering. It's Killing Your Relationship

Men, Women, and Sexuality: More Similar Than Different

Fight Smarter: Avoid the Most Common Argument Patterns

The Value of Letter Writing

A Look Inside Couples Therapy: How a Podcast Turned into a Global Mental Health Resource

When Their Turn On Is Your Turn Off

Coping With Loneliness Around The Holidays

Arguing about Money Again? Understanding Financial Tension in Relationships

You can also browse articles, Letters from Esther, and Podcast Episodes in our “Focus On” sections, where we group resources based on important relational topics.